It’s really an overdone narrative in film and television; a couple has a baby and stops having sex. Then the conversation about the no-sex either happens or someone ends up cheating, blames their infidelity on the lack of sex or the lack of talking about it, and the issue of no-sex comes full circle only to endure.

Over lockdown I’ve been bingeing This Is Us — a surprisingly wholesome American romantic drama series. One of the couples in the show experiences this yes baby/no sex scenario. No cheating in their case, but the awkward conversation happens like it always seems…

Since I could work at the age of 15, I’ve been a babysitter, bookkeeper, receptionist, strip-club bartender, call-centre agent, sandwich hand, restaurant manager and freelance writer. And they’re just the jobs I’ve had. The ideas for who I could be? Endless.

I’ve considered being an author, interior designer, construction supervisor, scientist, politician, university lecturer, musician, psychologist, furniture restorer, astrologist, private investigator, healer, HR manager, sex worker, film director, actress, artist, designer, dance teacher, spiritual guru and entrepreneur of at least fifteen businesses.

As for formal study? I’ve had brief stints in journalism, architecture, construction, advertising, marketing and botany. I haven’t…

Note: Though I’m not a scientist or professional expert on brains, I do have one. The advice in this article comes straight from personal experience, so please, don’t take it as professional advice. Consult your doctor, or not ;)

If you’ve struggled with making positive change, maintaining new habits or find yourself lost in a loop of self-sabotaging behaviours that you can’t figure out, know that it’s not you. It’s your brain.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my brain. I would not be happy if anything happened to it. Cross my heart, knock on wood. Of course.

But, as…

Apart from your job, your possessions, and the various roles you play in your life, who are you? If you were to strip away all concepts and titles, all memories and past experiences, what would be left? If you were without your skills, opinions and beliefs, who or what would you be? The truth is, you are no one and everyone. No-thing and everything. You are the blank canvas and the beautiful, wretched painting. To understand this is one thing, to live it, another. But understanding is an important step. To begin to grasp who or what you are, you…

Gaslighting: A form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes, including low self-esteem.

Spiritual buzzwords like manifestation, love and light seem to be the latest trend on social media. We’re being told that our dream lives are closer than ever — all we’ve got to do is ask the universe for what we want. While this sounds like a great time (don’t get me wrong, it is), many seem to be coming up short. That’s because the process of manifestation is much more than angel numbers, positive thoughts and high hopes. To receive, we must genuinely believe in ourselves and our worth. To get there, we must face our shadow, which includes accepting…

We’re a strange bunch, us humans. Having spent the last sixty years devouring the resources of our solar system’s only habitable planet, we’ve made the ice age we’re supposed to be in feel more like a sauna. Like the fluffy blue muppet, we’re insatiable — we eat everything. As a result, our natural resources have been depleted at a speed so fast, it’s threatening our survival. With ongoing droughts, the future of our food is uncertain; the soil we’ve used to grow our crops for centuries is now so dry that little can be sustained from it. Our summers are…